Modern living has many benefits but it also had many pitfalls. One such pitfall is the rise in number of divorce cases every year. This trend has raised concern among many about the future of society and the institution of marriage itself. There are many voices raised in concern. A lot of them agree on the reasons for this deteriorating situation. Here are 11 important reasons for divorce cases in courts today.Crumbling Gender Stereotypes – Women are considered homely and tasked with taking care of the home – cleaning, cooking, and looking after the elderly and the children. But with education and job opportunities, more and more women are joining the work force. They try to equal and sometimes excel their male partners. This has led to hostility in homes that have a strong gender stereotype. Well educated women want to break free of this environ and fend for themselves as this provides them freedom and happiness.
Financial Freedom – With rising levels of education and brighter job prospects at an early age, more youngsters want to concentrate on developing careers rather than take care of home. They lose interest in married life very quickly. More job opportunities for youngsters with a high income mean more financial freedom. This encourages youngsters to seek independence rather than remain bound by relationships they consider as a burden. When both partners are working, there is often friction when one earns more than the other. If the couple have no child then there is no constraint from breaking apart. Divorce is easier under this situation.
Materialistic Temptations – Materialistic living has become a norm. Pleasure and happiness are sought to be bought by money. There is a tendency to measure everything in terms of money. In such a circumstance, there is no feeling for relationships and gratification is more important than accepting relationships with all its compromises. Since earning money is important, there is no time left for commitments. This leads to break-ups.
Lack Of Commitment – Less and less people are showing interest in a life long commitment. Many youngsters are not prepared to accept that the actual test of relationship starts after the marriage. Thus there is an increased tendency to reject long term commitment. Instead they are more willing to break apart and go their separate ways. Lack of commitment is one of the important reasons for divorce.
Less Emphasis On Moral Values – People are more open to adventurism today than they were ever before. Affairs both before and after marriage have become common. With increased financial freedom, there is less inclination to stay bound by moral values and societal norms. Thus increasing number of people are opting to break free and experiment rather than cling on to relationships.
Stressful Modern Lifestyle – Increased competition has led to an increased pressure at workplace. Therefore there is more emphasis placed on work rather than a healthy lifestyle and family. Often this has led partners (mostly husbands) taking out their work related frustration on their family members, usually their spouses. This has caused increased friction between couples. Where both partners work, the friction is higher leading to more fighting. Under such circumstances more and more couples are choosing to go separate ways than concentrate on saving the family.
Nuclear Families – With the breaking up of the institution of family, there is no one left to support or fall back on. Each partner expects the other to make sacrifices and adjustments. This leads to disastrous consequences as one partner will then feel deprived. If both partners are working and if they do not have children, it becomes easy for them to divorce and go after their dreams rather then start a family.
Increased Acceptance Of Divorce – More and more families are accepting divorced daughters and sons as they understand it will lead to happier and better lives. Earlier people were more afraid of the consequences of divorce as the feared rejection by their community or society. Instead nowadays families want happiness of their children and show less tolerance of social values. Thus more and more families are accepting divorced children. This has also lead to breaking up of many marriages.
Individualism – More youngsters are charting ways to fulfil their dreams and desires and are see binding relationships as a hindrance and impediments in their path to success. There is more emphasis on ‘I Me and Myself’. This has lead many young people to break free and pursue their dreams. This is common in highly educated youngsters who got married early but are not willing to adjust to what the other partner expects of them.
Changing Cultural Preference – With the rise in date culture under the influence of films and television, youngsters lose faith in relationships quickly. Youngsters become convinced that relationships and commitments do not work and are less inclined in keeping these intact. For them it’s easier to break from the bondage of marriage and look for newer partners. Physical gratification and increased reliance on sex rather than intimacy is also a reason.
Negative Parental Influence – Children who have grown up seeing their parents fighting or talking about divorce as well as the children of divorced parents lose faith in relationship very early in their lives. They treat relationships with disrespect and do not believe that relationships can last. They are more prone to divorce rather than adjusting and trying to save their relationships.
This is one of the most important reasons for divorce.
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Your contention is right. But slowly, a change is creeping in, in the mindset of the villagers too. Though it is not widespread, the influence of city life as well as what the villagers see on the television nowadays is influencing them and bringing about a change. Tradition, family honor, involuntary servitude, family bonds and prestige are valued in villages. But the younger generation will rebel at some point in time. Moreover as more and more people become educated they are bound to bring about a change and fight for happiness in their lives as well as in the lives of their family members. Divorce may still be a taboo due to the above mentioned reasons, but a change will nevertheless occur.
Educated families in villages may grudgingly accept divorce today, but if everything turns out right after divorce and there is happiness, then they will understand. Strong, adamant and a closed mindset are the reasons of many ills in our society. Fears and prejudices rule under the mask of tradition and prestige. But things are changing for the better, albeit slowly. Let us wait and see.
Reasons:
1.not compatible
2.women empowerment
3.divorce no more stigma
4.mother in law jealous issues
5.loss of interest with time
6.individualism
7.materialistic
8.infedility
Dear Preeja,
First of all thank you for the interest shown in our work.
And yes, the reasons that you have stated here are very true and agreeable. As more and better opportunities are available nowadays, people show less interest in sticking determinedly to the familial bonds and responsibilities. Marriage is the most likely casualty under these circumstances. We can only hope for a better future.
Thank you once again for sharing your thoughts with us.